I remember once when troubles descended like a sudden storm that dumps ten inches of rain in twenty-four hours. But why is it that way? Why do troubles so often come in bunches or in such rapid succession that we barely have time to catch our breath before another downpour? I’m glad the psalmist did not live on a perpetual high. David once longed for the wings of a dove so that he might fly away and be at rest. We would settle for the wings of a Concorde or a 747 – even a Piper Club!
Then I discovered God’s promise in Isaiah 40:31. There, those “who wait upon the Lord shall renew their strength; they shall mount up with wings as eagles; they shall run, and not be weary; they shall walk, and not faint” So it boils down to: “Away-or up?” The key seems to be waiting on the Lord. In this instant generation, most of us don’t wait easily. But we can learn. F.B. Meyer once wrote, “Not always talking to Him or about Him but waiting before Him till all the stream runs clear, till the cream rises to the top; till the mists, part and the soul regains its equilibrium.”Ruth Bell Graham
Away or Up?
What do we do when trouble arises? And this is one of those days that I am enduring with life. As David wasn’t always on the mountain top. And I am not going to talk here and say that life is always about grandeur and always going to be on the mountain top. Because I do experience the highs and lows in life. There are hills and valleys in life. And that’s just reality. I am not going to sit here and tell you guys that life is always colorful, rainbow, and skittles as I always say. Because most of us, one way or another we will encounter different problems and trials in life. And this is one of those days where you had an argument and disagreements with your loved ones. You have some kind of discord. You don’t see eye to eye.
So what do you do in the midst of the storm?
Are you going to run away or are going to go up and rise above the situation? The choice is, of course, yours. I don’t know about you on how you deal with a situation. Everybody and every one of us are uniquely and differently have a personal choice on how we deal with circumstances. As for myself, I like to cry it out. A good cry is good for your heart. And it is not a sign of weakness. That’s how God created tears to replenish our sorrows. I do tend to cry when I am upset, and when I am also happy. There are tears of joy and tears of sadness. Tears of being annoyed and angry. Again, not everyone is equally created by God.
Each one of us is given a different kind of level of emotional quotient (EQ) on how we deal with life. And I like to sometimes vent to God, scream, and yell. Do whatever you can to release that emotional tension out of your body. And one of the things that can release my tension is by crying. I learned by crying and talking to God in the midst of the problem, releases the tension out of my heart.
You Are Not Alone
We are not supposed to carry the burdens on our own. We are not meant to walk on this earth alone. Even if people may not understand you and people might not be reachable to help you with your problems. But the best person who understands your circumstances and who understands your heart and who can help you with any situation is only Him alone. He is the only One who can be really there for you at the end of it all. People may come and go in your life. Family members are unreachable. They may not care about what’s going on with your life because they’re busy or they have their own problems that they are dealing with. At the end of the day, the best resort we can go to is God alone.
Lessons From King David
When David was surrounded by many problems and his life was at risk and he was being chased by King Saul. His life was on the brink of being killed, he resorted to God. He looked up instead of looking down. He was not looking around his circumstances. He gazed his eyes on the prize. The One above who knows exactly the beginning and the end, who can tame the storm, and who can truly get him through whatever he was going through. In the same way with us, we can either keep in silence like I did today. I just shut the door. I kept quiet and gazed at God. And I’ve told him in silence to deal with my situation, and ask him to help me control my anger and my emotion. And if you let God control your emotions, He will truly help you get over that kind of emotional turmoil that you are going through. At the end of the road, he will help you. Because God is faithful.
“Come to me all of you who are weary and heavy laden because my yoke is easy and my burden is light.”Jesus
Trust in God
We are not supposed to carry this burden ourselves. And this is why many people gave in. And they gave up easily when problems arise when they think that the burden is too much to bear. And they have nowhere else to turn to. But I am going to tell you exactly that you have a greater, mightier, holier, and sovereign God that you can turn to when a problem arises. And that’s the thing I do, I cry it out and I keep quiet sometimes. And sometimes I vent to God and I tell him exactly how I feel with my loud voice. And there are times, I just sat quietly, like today. And truly just looking back or reflect on what I have done wrong or what I could have prevented from that problem to arise?
“Troubles descended like a sudden storm that dumps ten inches of rain in twenty-four hours.”Ruth Bell Graham
How Do We Deal When Problems Arise?
That’s what trouble is. Trouble is something that is unpredictable. It is not something that is measurable. It is not something that we can actually be going to be prepared for. How do we react and how should we develop a character of not giving up on God or going away from God? Most likely, when we encounter problems we either curse God, run away from God or we blame God for the bad situation that is happening around our lives. Or we give up. Therefore, some people quit their lives and end their lives sadly because they have no idea who to turn to. As a child, I have always been this way. This is how I’ve dealt with problems, I go to a bedroom and cry it out. I would always have this dialogue in my head of how I can improve on the situation. Maybe it was me who created the problem or maybe it’s the other person. But most likely, you can not control the other person, and you can not change the other person. Therefore, the only person that you can change is yourself.
Two Become One
Ask God to change the person and intercede on your behalf when it comes to relationships especially in a marriage. Two people are married, two different people are put together. Supposedly, two become one. But sometimes, we do live in a fallen world, and there’s no such thing as perfection when it comes to marriages. God is supposedly the best mediator. The best counselor there is to help us in times of need. Sometimes it’s okay to be quiet.
Wait upon the Lord
We can just be quiet and trust him. In due time, he will work out the differences and the situation we think that it’s too big. Because our perception might be. In our eyes might be too big to deal with. But in God’s eyes, there’s nothing too hard. And there’s nothing that He can not do, and there’s no one that He can not change.
God Has A Purpose
- It is something to do about our hearts. Sometimes, God allows problems to arise because He is teaching us something about ourselves. Or He is trying to catch our attention to look up. Instead of being so caught up with our lives when everything is going right. We sometimes forget to praise Him and to pray because everything is going well. And sometimes, God would throw us out of our comfort zone. Because He is trying to catch our attention saying,
“I’m up here, and I need your attention to gravitate your attention towards me.”
- Instead of being occupied, because life is going great with you. And maybe, sometimes, He allows circumstances and troubles to come because He wants our attention. That is one way, why God would allow problems to arise because He doesn’t want us to be independent of him. He wants us to be dependent on him no matter what our circumstances are whether we are in the valley or we are in the mountaintop.
Life Isn’t Perfect, But God Is
Life is not always on the mountaintop, I guarantee you that. Maybe some of you are suffering right now. I am not sure what you are going through. And there are times we do wonder whether God is still in the hills or in the valleys. But He is everywhere. Because He’s the One who knows everything. He is Omniscient, Omnipotent, and Omni-present God. He knows exactly what’s going on in your marriage or in your family, with your children. He is not dead. He doesn’t slumber, he doesn’t sleep. He is alive and always watching us. He watches fro and to. His footstool is the earth. And He’s always looking down upon His people. Both the wicked and the righteous ones. Therefore, nothing surprises in God’s eyes.
How do we deal with the circumstances?
Pray. Do we go up or do we go away? Of course, it is much easier to be like a bird to fly away when we have a problem. Another thing I deal with instead of praying, of course praying is another way on how I deal with by talking to God and crying out to God.
Change Your Environment. Another one is I go out, and I try to change my environment. And some of those nights where I have to go out with my son, and grab some nice dinner and have a nice meal. And that fixes everything when you have a nice meal, and when you have a good meal to eat and your full. And your tummy is full, and everything goes away.
Sleep On It. There’s nothing that you can do really to fix the situation when you know that this has to pass. So you can either go to bed and pray about it that “this too shall pass.” In any storm in life. The storm passes, and eventually, there’s going to be a rainbow that will appear after the rainy and stormy gale. So that’s the thing we can deal with is we can either sleep or go out by shopping which I did after having a wonderful meal with my son.
Pray it out or talk it out to a friend which I used to do a lot before. But I tend not to do it anymore because at the end of the day, as much as I wanted to get my family involved and my friends involved with my marital problems, there’s isn’t really that they can do about my marriage. There’s nothing that they can say for that matter because they will not understand your situation more than you do or more than God himself. Because only God knows exactly what’s going on in your head or in your heart as well as for your other spouse’s heart. It doesn’t matter how much you vent to your loved ones or to your family as your sisters. Well, if it’s going to help you, of course, feel free to do so.
God Knows Best
But for me, I’ve learned the hard way that I’d rather deal with this and talk to God about it because he’s the one who knows exactly what to do in this situation. He is the one who has the best solution. People can give opinions based on their personal, actual, experiences. The way that they see the situation, but still at the end of the day, they really give the best answer. And that is something that I have learned the very hard way. When there were times that I got my family involved, and disaster came. And the sad thing about the family get involved is that the treatment towards your spouse will be different now because now they know exactly how your spouse treated you. And when there’s an occasion, and when they see you, there’s going to be awkwardness. And it’s not going to be so pretty being around them, and so sometimes it is easier to just pray it out and keep silent.
If Matters Comes To Worst
Maybe you want to seek professional help to go with that route. Again, if you think that your life is at risk and your life is being abused in your relationship physically and mentally in an abusive relationship, I think it’s about time to determine what to do next. If your life in jeopardy, the next step to do is to get out of your marriage or just walk away for a certain period of time to just get out and get a fresh perspective. This is what happens to the women out there, and I know that as a woman, we do have a struggle with our marriage, and I know that not everyone is perfect. We have all different kinds of problems in our marriages, but one thing for sure, I know that God is near to the brokenhearted. And He understands your suffering and He understands what you are going through. And He is the defender of women, and not to say that he doesn’t care about men. I don’t know, we just have to look at things from a different perspective and pray about it that God is going to ultimately help us to get through whatever circumstances we are facing.
Lamentations 3:25, "The Lord is good unto them that wait for Him. To the soul that seeketh him."
Maybe this message is all over the place, but that’s something that I want to share with you today. We need to seek God above all else and not seek other people’s opinions and advice. We need to ask God’s guidance in terms of making decisions in our lives and to really pray about the situation we are in. I know at this time, many are suffering because of the corona virus. Our lives have changed rapidly, and life has never been the same before. The stress level is a lot higher now than before because we have been coop up in the same room with our loved ones. and we have not seen other people for a while, this is why it’s important to just get out and get fresh air, and be surrounded by other people. That’s what I did today. and try to evaluate myself on how I can improve my communication skills. Again, communication skills have been my problem in that department, I am still struggling in this area.