Femininity is qualities or attributes regarded as characteristic of women.

Disclaimer, anything I write is based on my opinion and observation, you can either take this information with a grain of salt or apply these teachings to your own life to become a better woman.

How To Become A Feminine With A Classy Twist?

1. Develop Good Communication Skills.

Communication consists of verbal and non-verbal. Unfortunately, most of us grew up not taught how to communicate effectively and respectfully. I grew up bottling everything inside and I was not allowed to speak my mind.

Culturally Speaking

Children were not condoned to get involved with the adult conversation as well as talking back to their parents as is shown as disrespectful. This is how I kept everything inside that ultimately became a problem. When you have bottled your emotions inside and was never allowed to speak freely, I grew up having an issue with communication.

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How to Develop Our Communication Skills?

  • Practice Self-Awareness.

Developing good communication skills takes practice. Being self-aware is by listening to how you talk and the tone of your voice. Use words to encourage & not deflate somebody else’s. Your intentions might be right, but wrong at the top of your lungs. Try to enunciate your words by not mumbling. Speak slowly & clearly to get your point across.

Some of our habits are perhaps adapted from the people we grew up in. But we can do something about it to change how we communicate by searching from people who teach about effective communication skills and learn from them.

  • Avoid Yelling If Possible.

As long as you are living and breathing you will encounter differences with either one of your family members, friends, or strangers. Therefore, having a confrontation with someone is unavoidable. However, if you can’t see eye to eye and you can’t agree on things, it is best to leave the room rather than yelling and screaming at each other when you know no one is winning. This takes practice and determination.

Fight or Flight?

There are two ways we respond to a situation we either fight or flight. I used to fight until dawn before and never would I backed down. I fought hard because I wanted to prove the other person wrong. going anywhere.

However, this leaves me feeling exhausted and out of control. Now, I am getting better at removing myself from the situation when I know the conversation isn’t going anywhere.

A Classy Lady

“We don’t always need to be right. Walking away when disagreement occurs is not a sign of weakness, but rather a sign of maturity.”


Another Trait To Develop

2. Never Let Your Circumstances Dictate Your Mood.

There was a time in my life when I had a fight with my husband the night before that I would spend the following day wallowing in self-pity. I would refuse to get up and just waste my day away lying in bed, unmotivated. I would not eat, take a shower, or cook. I would just put a cover over my head and replay the last episode of the stupid things that just took place the night before. Therefore, I would be in a crappy mood the whole day and wasted my time feeling sorry about myself.

Then one day, God had dealt with me with this self-pity party and said, “Stop playing this victim mentality of yours, pick-up your mat and walk!”

Do you know who loves for you to stay in a victim state of mind and stay in a rut for the rest of your life?

It is the devil himself. John 10:10 says, “The enemy wants to kill, to steal and to destroy.” He loves for you and me to just play the victim and wallow in self-pity. However, Jesus offered something so wonderful and beautiful that He said, “I have come that you may have life and that you may have it more abundantly.

Abundance is what Jesus offered not scarcity.

The moment we join hands with the devil being a victim and acting like one, we somehow allow him to dictate and being the master of our lives. I say enough is enough. As a child, a co-heir of Christ, a daughter of the Most High God, it is about time for you and me to take what is rightfully ours. We can choose to live and love life to the fullest.

Life is a gift that is given to each one of us that it is up to us to use for God’s glory and show up to be the best that we can be in this world. We owe to ourselves and to the people we surround with to live gracefully and expectantly.

Just remember, as long as we are living, we will never reach the point of perfection. We will always make mistakes and it is quite alright because that is part of being human. We will never grow when we don’t make mistakes. However, I hope we can learn from our mistakes that help us to become a better person for the world to see.

Audrey Hepburn once said,

My greatest victory has been to be able to live with myself, to accept my shortcomings. I’m a long way from the human being I’d liked to be, but I’ve decided I’m not so bad after all.

Audrey H.

Audrey Hepburn epitomizes grace and elegance yet she still knew deep down inside she will never be perfect.



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