Let your yes be yes and no be no! Many of us including myself had to overcome being indecisive. This has been an ongoing struggle for me. Whenever I am making any major decisions in life such as starting a different career, going back to school, and pursuing your goals in life confusion and self-doubt are going to creep in. If this isn’t dealt with from the start, we will eventually end up not doing anything we wished we’ve started many years ago.
Definition of confusion
a situation in which people are uncertain about what to do or are unable to understand something clearly: the feeling that you have when you do not understand what is happening, what is expected, etc.
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How To Overcome Confusion?
- Just Decide. Indecision is going to make us dazed and confused. So, just decide! We can’t wait for the right time or the perfect timing, we just have to learn to put our foot down and decide. It may be uncomfortable at first. Starting anything in life is putting one foot after another, and just start. I know we have plenty of decisions we make in a day and some of it are far important than others. We make decisions such as what shall we eat, what clothes should we wear and what should we do today, so on and so forth? There are endless and countless decisions we make every day, no wonder why we feel lost and confused most of the time. When you want to change the trajectory of your future, it is important to have a clear vision of where you want to go and what you envision for your future.
- Take Action. We don’t need to wait for someone else to validate or give us their approval to start anything in life. We just have to be willing to do whatever it takes to accomplish our goals. We must be willing to be uncomfortable to step into uncharted territory. To be willing to do the work, intensive research of the topic we are currently working on, and be okay to make mistakes along the way. Inaction will stop you from moving forward. It is better to start than to finish a task. Just do it!
- Have Faith. Faith without action is dead. Faith can’t only work by itself. It has to be accompanied by action as I’ve pointed out from the last point I’ve made. Faith is believing in yourself and the talents that God had given you. The gift that you are innately born with. When you think about it, before anything was produced into existence it was first created in their imagination before it was realized and became tangible. We just have to keep on working towards our goals by taking smaller steps. Jesus said, “He who is faithful in what is least is faithful also in much.” Just keep on sowing and planting to where God has placed you in this season and eventually you will see a harvest.
- Practice! Practice! Practice! As the saying goes, practice makes perfect. If I could paraphrase that saying, I’d rather say, practices lead you to progression. The more you practice and take action the more you become better at it. This verbiage was something I’ve borrowed from The British School of Etiquette, “To Be The Master of What You Do.” Simply put, hone in your talents and focus on that one thing that you are really are passionate about. In any profession in life, may it be an athlete, a singer, an actor, or actress, or a businessman, they repeatedly do the same thing over and over again by showing up and enhanced their skills.
- Do You Have Peace in Your Heart? Whenever I was about to make major decisions in life such as breaking up with a man or marrying someone we are to asked not to lean on our own understanding but involved God in everything. Proverbs 3:5-6, “Trust in the Lord with all your heart and lean not in your own understanding, in everything acknowledge Him, and He shall direct your path.” When your mind and heart can both agree on things and you have peace about it then you’ll know for sure you have made the right decision. But when there are doubts and confusion, then you may want to reassess and reevaluate your decisions.
- Ask The Question, Is The Work I Do Lights Me Up? As I’ve learned in life, there’s nothing worse but to dread your job and hate showing up for it. I don’t want to live in regret. Someday when I become a granny I don’t want to wish that I would have, could have, and should have followed my dreams and took a risk. Regret is not the way to live and it will be a waste of time. Work is supposed to make us become a better person. Because of it, we keep showing up and give our best. I don’t want to chain my life to a job that I am not happy about or to an employer who can fire me at any time. It is great that you have a job and there’s nothing wrong with having one. Just know which decision is best for you today. But as for me, I have decided that this year is where I am finally willing to pursue my dream. This is why I started a blog, a youtube channel, and a podcast so that I can manage my own time, work from home, take good care of my son, and earn money. I’ve never been happier to finally found something where I can be creative and that excites me.
- Be Patient With Yourself. Just because we don’t see results right away, it doesn’t mean it isn’t meant to be. We must be willing to stay committed and consistent before seeing results in the long run. Most of us want to give up when we experience hurdles and obstacles. Yes, we will face those challenges along the way, but quitters will never win. I myself have to constantly remind myself to be patient. As we all know, there’s no such thing as an overnight success. Let’s take David for instance, even if he was anointed to be the next king in line, he waited for a long time before he could reign the next king. He had been through many ups and downs along the way before he finally reigned as the king.