There is power in our tongue, and we will eat the fruit of our words that proceed out of our mouth. We can manifest either life or death, blessing or cursing in our lives or to somebody else’s life. As Deuteronomy 30:19 emphasizes it, “Today I have given you the choice between life and death, between blessings and curses. Now I call on heaven and earth to witness the choice you make. Oh, that you would choose life so that you and your descendants might live!
Growing up, I have never really given it a great thought on how words have a great impact on a person’s life until recently I have discovered that the words we speak have the capability to build a person up or tear a person apart into pieces. Our words have power and it can impact somebody else’s life. Words can stab like a knife. James 3:8, “But no man can tame the tongue. It is an unruly evil, full of deadly poison.” Unless we are honest with ourselves and own up with our mistakes, we will limit our ability to grow and most likely encounter the same unhealthy pattern in our relationships.
I for one struggle controlling my tongue and how hard it is to control. As James 3:6 wrote, “The tongue is so set among our members that it defiles the whole body, and sets on fire the course of nature, and it is set on fire by hell.”
Some words that had been stored in our memory that we subconsciously respond automatically functioning out of a habit or as second nature. God had to gradually remove the habitual cursing I have learned in my teenage years. When we curse men, we have less time to bless others.
With our mouth we glorify God and with the same mouth, we curse men. And the bible clearly states, “Out of the same mouth proceed blessing and cursing. Does a spring send forth fresh water and bitter from the same opening? Can a fig tree, my brethren, bear olives, or a grapevine bear figs? Thus no spring yields both saltwater and fresh.” James 3:10
How can we solve this problem with our tongue?
- Of course, it is easier than said than done. As a child of God or as a believer, we have the authority to put everything under the authority of our Lord Jesus Christ even our tongue.
- In addition, as a Christian, we have a helper called the Holy Spirit who is there to guide us every step of the way. Paul writes to the Ephesians 4:23, “be renewed in the spirit of your mind, and that you put on the new man which was created according to God, in true righteousness and holiness.”
- Check our hearts. The abundance of the heart, the mouth speaks. Matthew 12:34 Whatever we’ve pondered on and meditate it will determine the words that will come out of our mouth.
Isaiah had the same issue with his tongue.
Isaiah was also convicted when he stood in the presence of the Almighty God that he said, “Woe is me, for I am undone! Because I am a man of unclean lips, And I dwell in the midst of a people of unclean lips; For my eyes have seen the King, the Lord of hosts.” Isaiah said in 6:3
Despite Isaiah’s remorse, God has still used him to be the great prophet in Isaiah’s time. The very thing we thought that disqualifies him is the very tool God utilizes to advance His kingdom. The bottom line, only God alone has the power to change us from the inside out. The seraphim took coal and placed on Isaiah’s tongue and said, “Behold, this has touched your lips; Your iniquity is taken away, and your sin purged.”– Isaiah 6:7
As a parent, we have the ability to encourage and lift up our children or tear them apart. Words do have an impact on our children’s lives that it cut deep like a knife down to our very core. Even to this day, the hurtful words that have been spoken to me still stored in my memory. Words have a different way to hurt an individual that someone it influences how you act and think about yourself.
I am working progress and I have not yet perfected controlling my tongue. As an emotional person and depending on my mood that there are times I get tired or I am hormonal, I can get easily irritated and I can say words that are hurtful that I have to ask God to help me to guard my lips and give me the strength to get on with life.
One day, God spoke to me that most men or women who spent their time in jail are the ones who have not heard any loving or encouraging words from their family members. These people heard mostly demeaning and hurtful words telling them, “you will never mount up to anything, you will end up in jail so on and so forth.”
When I have become a mother, that’s when I have to learn to choose my words wisely because again, I can either prophecy death or life to my child, speak words of blessing or cursing. We must learn to differentiate between our child’s behavior and not attack their character. Even though, they might mess up many times, we can correct them by not attacking their character and not saying words that are hurtful such as, “you are stupid, you are dumb, etc.” I know it is easier said than done but with God’s grace and help, we can do all things through Christ.
The best way to teach our children about consequences is when they are still young. As an adage goes, “An old dog can’t learn new tricks.” It is hard to correct your child when their mind has fully mature and had formed an opinion. I tell my son that when you misbehave, you will get punished and at the same time when you do something good, there is a reward. What we sow, we reap. Just like God, when we obey Him we will be blessed and when we disobey Him we will be cursed.